Resilience
What is it?
The key component of resilience is the ability to recover from a setback and adapt to challenges. In other words, to endure, survive, and thrive despite what life throws at you. Resilience is a skill that can be learned and strengthened. It takes practice and appreciation of your incremental gains. When you acknowledge small changes, they can make a big impact.
What can it do for me?
Resilience building improves motivation, energy, and self-belief. Enhanced resilience will help you get the most out of the other strategies you use to help process and move through life’s challenges and setbacks.
How do I do it?
There are many ways to build resilience. It is important to engage with the process and choose the strategies that work for you. You are unique and your solutions need to have personal significance. Like any skill, you need to practice to improve. Committing to the process becomes easier when the strategies are personalized. The effects are felt more readily and sticking to it becomes something you want to do, not something you make yourself do.
Practicing the strategies will enhance your resilience incrementally. Don’t discount the small wins, acknowledging and appreciating them is part of the habit change that will give you a more resilient base to meet all future challenges.
When we discover our resilience, embrace and enhance it, we free ourselves from the expectation that difficulties are insurmountable.
Acceptance
What we resist persists.
We compound our problems by giving energy to avoidance and escape. Resilience allows us to accept the lows without dwelling on them, to acknowledge them and know that they will pass.
Writing a new narrative is more effective than wasting energy wishing away the old.
Realistic
Being realistic in our expectations helps us to remain fluid, avoiding getting ‘stuck’ in the sadness, stress or anger that stems from wishing for a life without challenges or setbacks.
It helps us to move away from unhelpful comparisons and notice and value what we have. Being present in the moment requires us to realistically engage with it and teaches us to value the aspects of ourselves and our lives that are nourishing.
I will help you recalibrate your expectations in a safe and accepting space. You can learn to understand and challenge your perceptions and expectations without self blame by keeping a focus on self compassion and acceptance.
Compassion
Too often, difficulties are compounded by a ‘blame’ mindset, whether we blame others or ourselves.
This is a trap that keeps us stuck.
Compassion will give you the freedom to move on.